Nicki Minaj is a very busy woman these days, so not everyone can be so lucky to get the opportunity to actually sit down and have a conversation with her. But when a writer earns the privilege to speak with Nicki Minaj, one would only assume that they would use their time wisely to ask how she manages to make everything she does look so effortless, or perhaps even ask for tips on how to follow in her footsteps, right? Apparently not.

In a recent interview with The New York Times Magazine, many of the questions focused on gossip. When asked about her remarks towards Miley Cyrus at the VMA’s, Nicki made her stance on the topic clear:

The fact that you feel upset about me speaking on something that affects black women makes me feel like you have some big balls. You’re in videos with black men, and you’re bringing out black women on your stages, but you don’t want to know how black women feel about something that’s so important? Come on, you can’t want the good without the bad. If you want to enjoy our culture and our lifestyle, bond with us, dance with us, have fun with us, twerk with us, rap with us, then you should also want to know what affects us, what is bothering us, what we feel is unfair to us. You shouldn’t not want to know that.

The conversation lightened briefly after that, as Nicki spoke about accepting her body and loving herself. But the light-heartedness didn’t last. The conversation came to a screeching halt after Nicki was asked whether she “thrives on drama.” “That’s disrespectful, why would a grown-ass woman thrive off drama,” said Nicki. “What do the four men you just named have to do with me thriving off drama? Why would you even say that? That’s so peculiar. Four grown-ass men are having issues between themselves, and you’re asking me do I thrive off drama?”

Nicki silenced the reporter and rightfully cut the interview short with her closing remarks:

That’s the typical thing that women do. What did you putting me down right there do for you? Women blame women for things that have nothing to do with them. I really want to know why—as a matter of fact, I don’t. Can we move on, do you have anything else to ask? To put down a woman for something that men do, as if they’re children and I’m responsible, has nothing to do with you asking stupid questions, because you know that’s not just a stupid question. That’s a premeditated thing you just did. Do not speak to me like I’m stupid or beneath you in any way. I don’t care to speak to you anymore.


It’s a shame that this reporter had to get this harsh response from Nicki, but it was an important lesson nonetheless. Time and time again, women in entertainment are asked silly, shallow questions about their love life, clothes, or petty drama rather than the talent, art and hard work that they’re actually known for. Don’t disrespect women by asking them simpleminded questions and more importantly, if you have to shut someone down, follow Nicki’s playbook and do it with manners.

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