10. Ray J
Ray J seems to be the one man during this entire period that Steffans truly loved. He was a few years younger than her and made her feel young again—something she hadn’t ever really been allowed to be. They didn't have drug-fueled orgies around town; instead, they watched Big Momma's House three or four times, and who doesn’t love that? The sad part is that because of this, because of her lifestyle which she kept hidden from him, Ray (as we call him) was never more than a memory, even when they were together. It was a glimpse perhaps of something that could have been without her lifestyle, without the other men and the drugs. But would she have ever met him without those?